Give yourselves plenty of time prior to the wedding day so you won’t have to rush.  Set some time aside when you can both focus on the ceremony.  To get you started, answer these questions:

• What special readings, poetry and/or scriptures would you like to include?
• Who will do the readings?  Friends and family can play an intimate role in the ceremony.
• Would you like to include a sub-ceremony, such as a rose ceremony (giving the bride & groom’s mothers a rose) or a sand ceremony (blending children from other marriages)?
• Would you like to write your own personal vows?

Writing your own vows allows you to speak to your spouse directly from your heart.   You can start with traditional vows, then make changes that reflect your personal sentiments.  Ask yourself what you love most about this person and what makes your love unique; maybe add a favorite memory.  Be  sincere and keep your vows relatively short (one minute or less).  There is no need to memorize your vows, I will print them up and have them in my book to hand to you at the appropriate moment.